Hope for any marriage

God put you together. He will work things out. The counselors teach you how to make your marriage work. Don’t do that. The anxious feelings and frustrations come from trying to do God’s job for Him. He will hold you together. It will be a testimony not to your efforts, but to God’s grace. He gets the credit.      Your job is to get to know the person that God gave you. Focus on the person, not the behavior. Do you feel like you’re drowning in the problems, the irreconcilable differences? Some day you will laugh at those problems. They can’t touch you. The conditions are not the relationship. You married a person, not a set of conditions, and your marriage is built on the Rock. Next time you look into this person’s eyes, remember that this is a real person, someone with a soul, someone who was made to live forever, someone that Jesus died for.

( more to come for chapter 13 . . . )