| A new hope arises from the mess of a culture of divorce, a hope for something more real than the superficial do this/do that system of convenience. I look at this culture of death, a mass of acquaintances, of gods interacting with gods, where the idea of reconciliation is reduced to a pursuit of what we can get from each other.
What is reconciliation? What does it look like? Many in our society would describe it as two people working out their differences. Two people sit at a table, discussing the problems between each other, trying to work them out. They try to agree on a set of doís and doníts: rules designed to hold them together. Is this it? Is this what it looks like?
I do not see reconciliation in this working out of differences. It is not enough for two people to be reconciled to a set of conditions. Thatís cheap. Thatís not the real thing.
I see reconciliation when a man embraces his wife and shows her that her sins mean nothing to him. True reconciliation looks beyond the things and into the soul of a person.
Christians cannot live by the same law that governs the hearts of those who perish. We cannot live by the law that Jesus fulfilled. We cannot live by the law without living under its judgement.
On what basis do we seek reconciliation? We need a reason. A Christian has one reason for wanting to be reconciled with another person: the cross. A man forgives his wife, because his Lord forgave him. He is incapable of holding anything against her, because all judgements against her are nailed to the cross. Itís as if she never sinned. Colossians 2:14, 3:13
For Christians, reconciliation is assured, because we already experienced it. Anyone justified by grace already knows reconciliation, and anyone who knows it loves it and wants to know it more.