| We’re told that the pro-choice view gives women more options, but there is one option that the pro-choice view cannot provide. That is the option of seeing a child as a gift from a sovereign God.
You see, the pro-choice view teaches her to make an autonomous decision. It is up to her to determine whether or not this child belongs in her life. All the options of the pro-choice view stem from this assumption. She looks at her life, her family, her friends, her interests, her schooling, her career, her hobbies, and everything else that will be disrupted by having a child. As she ponders the decision, she begins to drown in the details of her life, and abortion looks like the only option, a way out, a relief, an escape, “freedom.”
The great irony of humanism is that when you put yourself at the center of your life, you become a victim of circumstances. When you make yourself captain of your own ship and master of your own destiny, you end up a casualty of the wind and waves.
Enter then the one option that is out of reach, the belief that her child is a gift. Suddenly everything else falls away. God is giving her a child. Will God bring a new life into the world and not make provisions for it? The weight that was on her is now on God. He is big enough to take it. He is giving a gift, and all the rest is details.
The choice that the pro-choice view does not offer is the choice to let go of autonomy and let God be God. If he put the universe into existence, everything serves a purpose. Every child, “wanted” or “unwanted,” has a place in this world.
Some theologians want to have it both ways. They want to see a wanted child as a gift from God but not an unwanted child. In the world of liberal theology God serves our purposes, and if a child comes at the “wrong” time for us, God might have nothing to do with it. This is still relativism. If the woman’s choice determines the value of the child, the child remains a choice rather than a gift.
The giver determines the gift. The receiver may appreciate it or may not, but the giver determines that it is a gift in the first place: not wages earned, not punishment due, and not an accident.
The pro-choice movement tries to help a woman by affirming her right to determine the value of her child’s life, but this becomes an infinite burden. She cannot experience life as a gift unless she acknowledges that the value of life comes from God.